Change your Speaking habits

Hi Everyone,

One of the more popular topics on our BLOG is this one. Regardless of the culture, religion, lifestyle or background we are from, improving ourselves is probably a worldwide desire. Getting healthy is one of the first steps in self improvement. Most times, this causes us to turn to dieting and new workouts to get fit. This can be a good thing, if the nutrition and exercise are sound and healthy long term, but too often we neglect our ACTUAL self improvement. The self improvement I am talking about are habits-thought processes, lifestyle choices, emotional management,education, and real cultivation.
A healthy body gives you a place to start. In fact, the more healthy in mind, the more healthy the body.

But before you can get a healthy mind, you'll have to change your habits. We've talked a lot about vegetarian diet, and now we'll go to speech habits. The world is becoming an increasingly volatile and emotional place where people often lack a desire to control themselves. In the West, people are encouraged to misbehave, be disrespectful and to say or do whatever they please, even if its not good for society, all in the name of freedom. Indeed this is a person's choice, but it promotes bad habits and the encouragement of bad habits to others. Everyone should have a right to speak their mind, and we aren't talking about political situations here, but when, how and why are important when speaking.

WHEN: timing is important. This is an art form in and of itself. When should we restrain ourselves and when should we have no fear are concepts to be practiced using a moral ground work. HOW: Avoid name calling, racial slurs, gossip, swearing and lying. Try to purify yourself with better speech. Try it for one month and see how you feel and look, you may be surprised. Finally, WHY: Why are we speaking? mindlessly chattering? Wanting to have the limelight at the wrong time? Wanting to make someone else feel bad? Manipulating a situation because we are scared of something, or have an agenda for ourselves? These aren't good reasons to talk. So you can see, the WHY of speaking is actually more important than we could may have ever imagined.

More on changing Habits, next post!


Laoshi Erin Markle
Head Instructor Gold Summit Institute
President GSODEC
Director of Buffalo-China Sister City Affairs

"Everyday in the pursuit of learning,something is acquired. Everyday in the pursuit of the way, something is dropped" ~LaoTzu